1. It's not worth the energy to try to change/convince/enlighten someone else. It's not going to happen.
2. I am allowed to "go through the motions" with parts of my life, and instead focus on my own growth and fulfillment outside of those parts.
3. Pleasing people and giving goodness are not the same things.
4. No matter what I do, no matter how loving or thoughtful I will try to be, there are always going to be people who won't like it, and they will make sure that someone hears about it. Because there is absolutely no way of avoiding that situation, (meaning , no matter what choice I make in any given situation, someone will always think it is the wrong one), it can't possibly be useful or important to pay much attention to that, or to take it personally.
5. I have overcome challenges before, and I will continue to overcome them throughout my life.
6. Nothing is ever as difficult as I think it is going to be.
7. It's time to stop feeling ashamed or embarrassed about my thoughts and feelings. I also don't need to feel ashamed when I do something with genuinely good intentions and it doesn't go well. Maybe I need to rethink something, or do it differently, but I don't need to feel ashamed for trying.
8. Just because someone doesn't like me, it doesn't make me unlikable. There will always by people who don't like me. Every person on Earth has people who don't like them.
9. Sometimes being different makes things harder, but that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with it.
10. I will never, ever be perfect, or have perfection in my life, so I should probably stop wasting time striving for it. Even if I were perfect, it wouldn't guarantee me perfect love, or it free me from disapproval.
11. I have a huge fear of disapproval, and I invest an enormous amount of energy into trying to avoid it, even though I know it is unavoidable. The same is obviously true of pain and death. But do I really want to live my life just trying to avoid unpleasant things? What a waste of a life.
12. This is the only life I am ever going to have.
13. Inspiration: "The whole world is a very narrow bridge and the main thing is not to fear at all." -Rabbi Nachman or Bratzlav
About Me
- Ladybeard Johnson
- I used to think of myself as a tiny star, shining my twinkly little light as much as I could in a vast expanse of darkness. The kind of star you could probably see only with the right kind of telescope. But I shine brighter now, and I have gathered together a constellation of other twinkly lights, so I think it's easier to see me these days.
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